What's Wrong With The Boss?

Bosses are weird creatures, agree? They have this eerie sense of dominance even when nobody listens and a very submissive self that comes out at times. They are being thrashes, humiliated, abused and condemned by their employees in their mind. However, it seems that the bosses get stronger with each word of abuse. Whatever you say about your bosses might be true, but here is another take on what life is like when you are the boss. Things being explained from a 'not so bossy' humane perspective while digging the reasons why your boss behaves in a certain way. 

They are always late to office- It is quite possible that you have to reach the office everyday at 9 or 10 am while your boss is frequently late and reaches around 12 or even 3 pm. You hate this so much, don't you? You hate it when he reaches earlier and scolds you for being so careless. You really wish you could scold him back. However, if you look at things the other way, you will find that the poor chap reached office at 11 am instead of 9 am because he spent the last night working on a new project. Quite possibly, he was out of town for a day and had to travel the length or breadth of the country during his weekend to fetch a new deal. You don't have to do all this. So, you can at least show some respect.

Your boss doesn't have a life- we all say this all the time. But in reality, the boss actually doesn't have a life. He is not spending enough time with his family and friends because he takes more workload than you do and he takes it all back home with him. He might be working 2 man days in 24 hours. Is there some pity that you feel for this little creature?

Your boss is always irritated- do you ever think how many times in a day do you get on his nerves? You might not be the only one who is demanding a day off. There are many others like you who need 'rest' because they are tired of working 24x7 or because its the 2nd day of your period or maybe because your partner has planned a special date. What do you do in this case? You immediately demand a holiday or finish off your work just for the heck of it. You know who has to bear all this? Its your boss and his mad sprees are just a reaction to your action. 

P.S. all these conditions apply to only hardworking bosses like me. :P

Jokes apart, bosses are like wives. They are never understood and rarely loved. Everybody wishes they had a better one like their friend's and everybody feels empty without them. For those who hate their boss, please step into their shoes. You will get to know where exactly does it hurts. Maybe, i will get an employee version soon. 

Why Setting Goals and Making Plans Never Works 1

Though I personally do not have any issues with people who make goals and are able to fulfill them, personally it has been quite a traumatic experience. You know what life is about? Even I don't know and understand honestly. But what really caught my attention lately was the fact that too much goal setting is injurious to health. I was habitual of making long term and flexible goals. You know, the ones that aren't as harsh as we consider 'Goals' to be. They can be changed with time and circumstances. Just to cite and example, I write more than 12000 words in a day(not for my blog, for my work). Each article has been given a time limit, which somehow exceeds the 18 hours that i dedicate to my work life.

Now, I don't always follow the time limit and I always think that I am a sore loser for not having worked as per the huge expectations. Isn't this wrong? Even after dedicating so much time to my work, I am unable to fulfill all that is required. In such a case, flexible goals always come to my rescue. If something can be postponed, simply postpone it. Though I wont advice you to leave everything for tomorrow, but if it can be done tomorrow, then don't wait for a second. Do what can be done today and leave everything else.

These flexible goals will always help you in staying motivated all the time. If I complete an article within a lesser time frame as specified in the worksheet, I feel proud of myself and in this way, I am able to work even faster and more efficiently. However, after every 5-10 articles, the time limit has to be changed so that I don't feel like I have too much time to make merry. Spending just 2 minutes this way really helps ease a lot of burden and it has always worked.

I don't know if it is the lazy girl's way or anything else, but its great in the end. You need to stay motivated all the while and work must never become a burden. If you cant read as many books as you wanted today, then take it easy and pass it on to day two. Simple things in life must not become a competition with your own self. In the end, it will be you who loses. I have known someone for quite a while who would read from books and online articles and listen to all that is being said on the TV for self improvement. In this race, she literally forgot her real self. Though her real self didn't forget to come out every now and then.

What was the result? An identity crisis. A falsification of her whole personality. Now she remains torn between who she wants to be and who she actually is. She cannot focus on her career nor her relationships and as far as she can see, everything is going to fall apart soon. I know I am making a very distant relation between these two realities, but yes, I cant deny the co-existence of them too. Her goals have made her feel miserable and she often suffers from low self esteem. Isn't that a bad example of how too much goal setting is bad for you?

What can be done in this situation? Well I believe that the road to be successful comes in two extremes. Either you have the guts to handle the goals or you simply don't make them. But yeah, the middle path of making reasonable and flexible goals must work either way. Yes, you wont be too successful(if they are way too flexible), but at least you can be happy. Stay updated for more thoughts in the series

Life on loop

Life on loop.. I don't quite understand why a few things keep on happening again and again. Its like your life is running on a loop. After every while you face the same challenges.. you lose the same relationships and you get to see the same side of life that you have been avoiding all through. But why?? Is it because it is destiny or is it simply because we have to eat the fruits of our karma? Maybe we never learnt a lesson when last time it all happened. Maybe we simply let it go without hearing the ominous bell.

What bothers me is not that these things happen. What is the cause of my concern is the reason behind them. Are we all not progressing towards a better life? Then why the same issues arise again and again? It seems quite a complicated thing. We all are not aware of what is happening around and all faces chose to remain the fake masks that they are. I recently experienced this with someone close. She had put on a heavy make up of false affection to cover up an act that she knew I would not like much. However, what hurts the most was not the fact that the act had been performed. It was a perfect denial that made me laugh like I was sick of crying.

These are small things and they keep in happening in life. There is no big deal about them. I was just wondering why I always come across shallow relationships... false claims and promises that are never to be fulfilled. I am not hurt.. I am just lost in deep thought... trying to find a fault... in me... Sent from Catch Notes for Android https://catch.com

PCOS- Stress and Distress 5

In the middle of discussing the symptoms of PCOS, here i am with something that does not really deal with a symptom. It deals with the results of these symptoms. The trauma of not being able to define a persona and the emotional wrath that PCOS associates itself with.

It is very hard at times not to confirm to the beauty ideals of the society. Yeah you try to feel confident and tell yourself that you are great, but for how long? One day, probably in the middle of your cycle when PMS is more than ready to set in, you suddenly want to look at yourself in the mirror and then think why you don't look like one of the girls on TV or your best friend?

I have always been saying this and i will repeat, we are a visual society. We take things at face value. In a case when you are more offended that not to call yourself a moon face or pay attention to those little strands of hair growing all over your chin and on the upper lips, it is very difficult to be able to tell, what face value a woman suffering from PCOS holds?

It is not a dosage of discouragement. It is simply what the prolonged struggle in the daily life sometimes ends up in. It is disappointment, frustration and yes i am fairly frustrated while i write this. I am sharing what we all feel at some point in the PCOS journey. I am trying to talk about what the 'sophisticated' PCOS forums and PCOS do not talk about. Lets face it, it is pathetic to be in a situation like this and we want to get over this.

In my case, it is not just PCOS running havoc in my life. There are many many other unrealized dreams and decisions and situations that are building up an air of anger, almost a rage. What am i doing? Nothing. Sharing it with a few strangers over the internet, who i believe are going through the same.

It is almost devastating to feminine pride when you have an hourglass structure, but you cannot fit in to the clothes of your choice. Reason? Well, the shape might be too wonderful, but the size cracks the deal. It is almost a tasking thing to believe that you have legs hairier than your best friend. It is scary to believe that no matter how hard you try, no matter what you do, it seems almost impossible to lose the flab and look fit. It is scary to count days in your cycle and all that drama associated with it.

It is scary...

For how long will this continue? For how long will mirrors and camera lenses be a nightmare? When will it get back to normal? It does not let you function normally. As far as i have read and experienced emotionally tasking events are crucial for anyone who suffers from PCOS. Being happy or sad to the extremes works like magic(black or white). So you are stuck in a vicious circle, you are sad, you suffer, your suffering make you more miserable, you suffer more and so on... add to it some rage, some dissatisfaction with personal life and there you are...

Have i written enough about this? Maybe. This post was just emotionally charged. Will come back with something more sane and rational next time.