As an Indian middle class woman, I know how it feels like. We are taught a few weird things that are totally against our personal and professional growth. In facrt, these practices are against our general sense of happiness and well being too. Settling for less is just one of these practices that makes us awkward, always dissatisfied beings with a future as dark and bleak as a haunted mansion.
So all of my teen life, I have settled for less. i was asked to feel content with 60% of anything when I wanted at least a 90%. As an obedient 'good girl' I always abided with whatever was being told. I thought that happiness was about keeping everyone else happy. I was so wrong. Everyone else who 'chose' to be happy by fighting for themselves was happier then and they are happier now.
All that I am left with is this burden to settle for less everytime.
Do you want a phone that costs 60k?
Oh! But that 10k phone works as well. We need to save money you know. YOU need to be more understanding. What difference does it make?
But then it is a good phone and it will at least last for more than an year, maybe two or more. That 10k phone will be good for garbage in like 7 months.
Nah! But we can't keep aside some cash for you. You know we need to save. We don't have enough money to fund your luxuries. Buy that phone when you start earning.
But... but... I am already earning and I spent all I had on family. I always do that. Come on! You know it. I just want a good phone. Can I not get what I want? I am old enough for this now.
Please... please... please......
No. SETTLE FOR LESS. You want something? Go for a cheaper alternative. You want a great job? No, no. Go for a jpb that pays enough to fall short of your bills. You want to live a life? No live a life that your parents lived, with bigger bills and a heart attack at the age of 30.
Why are we being taught to settle for less? I don't want to do that. I don't want to spend according to my earnings. That is the shittiest, dumbest and most limiting idea I have ever come across. I wqnt to earn more than I can spend. My mindset was always about expanding the income and never about limiting the expenditure.
I hate this experience. I hate the fact that we have to tell ourselves that we should be curbing our happiness, our desires and our basic needs just because this forced sense of security is more important. Do you understand what I am trying to say?
I am not saying that the security of a job and a relationship or a family are wrong. Who hates security? It is all okay you know. But when security becomes a limiting factor to your growth and happiness, you have to think about your life goals once again.